Why You Should Implement Natural Consequences

Different parents have different schools of thought on implementing consequences for toddlers/preschoolers. Please understand that consequences are not punishments!

Consequences are just the results that naturally follow a behavior or action. They can be positive or negative- either encouraging or discouraging a particular behavior in children.

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Why should we use them?

*Development of Self-Regulation:

Consequences help children develop self-regulation, which is huge for emotional, social, and cognitive development!

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*Understanding Cause and Effect:

Consequences allow children to make the connection between their actions and outcomes, understanding the cause-and-effect relationship. This comprehension helps them develop reasoning skills and moral understanding.

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*Establishing Security through Boundaries:

Boundaries and consistent consequences offer a sense of security. Knowing the limits and what’s expected of them provides children with a safe, predictable environment in which they can explore and learn.

Implementing consequences doesn’t mean harshness. It’s important to approach boundary-setting with understanding and empathy. By explaining the reasons behind the boundaries and expressing love and reassurance even when enforcing consequences, children learn that while their behavior might not be acceptable, they are always loved and valued!

Children will exhibit a range of emotions in response to consequences, including sadness or frustration. Being upset about a consequence is a part of understanding its impact and making different choices in the future.

As parents, it's essential to validate their emotions and offer comfort while staying firm in enforcing boundaries.

Honestly, it’s exhausting to be a consistent parenting. You might feel like the “bad cop”. But remember, by doing so, you’re providing a secure and stable environment that will foster resilience and emotional intelligence in your child.

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When I suggest setting boundaries and consequences for toddlers around sleep, I do it because it works!

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